Alone

I love being alone. No I’m not talking about being single, I mean just literally being alone. Being nice and cozy in my bed, watching a movie, listening to music, testing out my new adult coloring book. But so many people are fearful of being alone. Some people need to have someone with them at all times. But I think being alone is so empowering. Independence is a gift we should all try and cherish. Spend one Saturday alone and you will be able to realize so many things about yourself you never knew. I think everyone should take the time out to just figure themselves out. We all think we know ourselves so well, but we don’t truly know who we are until we see how we act when we are alone. I’ve learned so much about myself over the past year because at least once a month, I’ve spent a day to myself. I put away my phone, take out my journal or pop in a movie, and just live for myself and not anyone else. Life is so much better when you realize who you are. At 18 years old, I’m still trying to figure myself out and that’s okay! But we can’t figure ourselves out if we’re constantly with other people who influence our thoughts and actions. I know it’s hard to be alone and that society wants you to be out with your friends every Saturday night, but you could take one Saturday every month and just chill. Watch your favorite movie, take a walk around your neighborhood, find new music, just do something for yourself because being alone does not mean you have to be lonely.

This may all be influenced from me watching How to Be Single twice in the past week, idk,
but just try discovering who you are for a change.

-your favorite people person

For Kass pt. 1

A couple of days ago, my friend Kass told me a few topics she would like me to write about on here. So, this one’s for you dude.

I find many things attractive in people. My most favorite thing I have found that most attracts me to anyone, relationship or friendship, is humor. Finding someone that can make you laugh is almost as great as a yogurt parfait. I think laughing is so necessary for everyone. A good laugh on a bad day is a total game changer.
I also find that I love conversationalists. My favorite people are the ones that I feel like I could talk to forever and we’d never run out of things to talk about. I love when you’re talking to someone and you don’t even realize it’s been hours.
This is very contradictory, but I love people you can just BE with. You don’t have to talk every second of the conversation. There are some friends I have where I know that if I want to just chill and not speak they won’t be bothered by it. Constant conversation, while riveting, is also so exhausting and I think a nice comfortable silence just makes you feel better and more relaxed.
I am superficial, so here are some physical qualities I enjoy: TEETH I’m so weird I know, but I love a good set of teeth. I’ve never really been an eyes person, but I love looking at people’s mouths when they speak. I don’t care what you think about me. I also love broad shoulders. And guys with glasses, holy cow. Alright I feel uncomfortable now, but Kass requested it, so blame her.

She also asked me what qualities I like in myself. Self love is amazing and if you don’t do it, try to compliment yourself at least once a day. Anyway, I FREAKING LOVE MY TEETH. They are my pride and joy. We all have that one body part we stare at when we look in the mirror, and mine is my lips. I love my smile and I don’t care who knows!!! I also love my personality. I love that I’m the type of person that can make people laugh effortlessly, but I can also be there for someone when they’re sad. But, the best thing I love about myself, is that I try not to compare myself to other people. Love yourself for who you are and trust me I know that’s freaking hard sometimes, but once you start trying, it becomes quite easy. Okay, this is way too long.

-your favorite people person

Ew

“Wise men say ‘Only fools rush in.'”
Love is kind of cool, I guess. And people do it all the time. They meet someone, find common interests, fall in love, and then either get married, don’t get married, or break up. If you ask me, love is kind of gross. Don’t get me wrong, almost every single movie or book I own is centered around a love story, but feelings are just kind of nauseating to me. And there’s also the fact that love is so important that there was a whole holiday made for it. Love is something strange. I happen to know nothing about the love that makes people run after each other in airports, or stop taxis in the middle of the street, or drive someone so crazy as to want to spend eternity with one other human. Holy cow. Now that’s something. I like those stupid, sappy, gross, lovey-dovey movies because they’re so unrealistic. Love is so cool and so hyped up and I just think it’s awesome that society wants everyone to try it. Heck, sometimes, I want to try it. However, you don’t need love to make you happy. I know, here I go again (on my own). But, seriously, contrary to popular belief, love is not necessary for survival. Love will not take away your troubles or make you a better person. Love is so great and if you want it, I hope you get it, but I also hope you don’t feel bad if you don’t have it right now. I say instead of focusing on love, you should focus on that class you’re doing horribly in, or that job that you need so you can buy food, or those friends who stick by your side even when you complain about being lonely. Love is cool, but don’t feel less than because you don’t have it now, or you’ve never had it, or you think you will never have it again. This Sunday, tell someone you love them, not because it’s Valentine’s Day, but because you can and you want to. I love y– well, actually, uh, I, you see, ugh. You’re pretty cool, I guess.

-your favorite people person

Growing Up

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but people have a tendency to start growing up at some point in their lives. I don’t mean physically growing up, everyone obviously does that. No, I mean when we finally take the leap from adolescence to adulthood in our minds. We decide that maybe we should actually listen to the advice of elders. We decide that it’s time to buckle down and do something productive with our lives. We apply to college, get jobs, live on our own. We leave behind our favorite childhood movies, books, TV shows and start watching and reading more age appropriate things. I don’t know about you, but I’m seriously not ready to grow up. Being a teenager is honestly such a pleasant thing to be. We’re wild, reckless, apathetic, and we have every excuse to be those things. When we were younger we placed a stigma on childhood. Being a kid means you have rules to follow, restrictions on what you can do, and you have to listen to what your parents tell you. But as you get older you realize you want to follow those rules, restrict certain addictions, and listen to your parents amazing advice. I’m not necessarily saying this is a bad thing, in fact, it is actually necessary in order to be a successful adult. I’m just saying that I’m not ready for that type of responsibility yet. I don’t want to give up these last glorious years of youth I have. Years where I can be dumb, fun, and not have a care in the world with no consequences. I am cherishing every moment and minute of my youth. I hope to be young for the rest of my life, even when I’m old because being young means being innocent, happy, and unperturbed by the terrible things that go on around us. People just need to stop growing up, get that stick out of their butt, and have some fun, ok?

-your favorite people person